||[Oct. 25th, 2004|08:13 am]
Originally posted by melamitra|
Interesting story from this weekend.
Playing the monthly D&D game. 4 out of 5 of the male players have girlfriends/fiances/wives.
For the past two games, two of them have started hanging out together, knitting.
This was the first time that the two of them didn't have 6 phone calls from their females asking "where are you, what's going on, etc. etc."....although the boys did call their females pretty regularly.
(the 3rd boy did get several calls from his wife, but a) they have baby and b) their toilet and tub backed up with sewage. 4th boy was at his dad's 65th birthday...worthy excuse.)
So at 9:30, boy A calls his fiance. Says that he won't be home til 10:30 at the earliest, and that this will be fine.
Boy A and boy B were both utterly amazed and excited that it was 'okay' for them to be out, seperate from their sig-ots until 10:30. This was an entirely new experience for them.
Then the other girl in the gaming group mentioned that when she was knitting last month with Females A, B, and D, that the three of them just started comiserating about how they don't understand why their boys get so excited about gaming. 'why don't the ever get so excited about me?' 'I thought I was the only one who ever felt that way!' etc. etc. Gaming girl just busied herself with her needles and felt uncomfortable.
Now, I love A, like B, and despise C. But jeeezum crow ladies, are you totally incapeable of spending time by yourself? Your man is only allowed to enjoy themselves in your company? You're not able to conceive of yourself except in defintion of your man? You think just because they like to do something that doesn't involve you, that they love you any less?
Of course, the three of us who completely Do NOT understand this behavior are the ones who are single. Am I single because although I want to share my life with someone, I don't expect to share every single second? That I would HATE having some boy be "but I'm nothing with out you"? That I think that you *should* have interests that don't overlap so each of you can still remain individual people? That coming back from different experiences and sharing talking about them is a good thing, and maybe make you better people for it?